Here’s why NYE Resolutions don’t apply!

Two days left of 2018 and I am filled with 2,018 emotions. This year, like many others, was a complete whirlwind! I thank God that there were more highs than lows, more friends than foes, and I held onto a bit of sanity despite it all. The days following all of the Christmas festivities and leading up to NYE seem to be the days filled with the most reflection for everyone. It is during that time that we reflect the most on the year as a whole and attempt to mentally prepare for all that is to come in the New Year. For many, this is the time those dreadful resolutions start. I scroll my social media timeline to see one too many “new year new me”, “not taking any drama into the new year”, “I’m making changes so if you don’t hear from me you were one of them”. Those infamous one liners that we use in an effort to announce to the world that we desire to leave some things, and usually some people, in the past. I always wondered why we choose to wait until the clock strikes midnight on the new year to choose better for ourselves. Isn’t reflection and correction more effective in the moment? I owe myself more than to endure negativity long term in an attempt to hold off and purge it all at once one night a year.

I can’t say I’ve never made a NYE resolution in my life. I’m sure my younger self loved to partake in those conversations with girlfriends, but nothing I ever said stood out enough for me to remember it now. I learned at an early age that holding onto negative feelings and thoughts for too long act out as a sickness to my body. I get worn out easily when my heart and mind are not at peace. I make irrational decisions and I am not myself when I allow burdens to flood my mind. My desire for immediate peace in order to be my best self is why NYE Resolutions do not apply in my life. I couldn’t imagine attempting to do all of the mental and emotional unpacking that is sometimes necessary all in a night. Making promises to myself and attempting to self reflect all before midnight seems a bit much to me. Instead I speak to the universe and ask that I continue to receive the desires of my heart, to continue to improve in all areas of my life, and to continue to do all things with love.

With all that being said, here are the top 3 lessons that I learned in 2018 that, although learned from in the moment, I do not plan to take with me into the New Year!

1. Let my discernment speak before I do!
   • Last week, and right on time, I saw an IG post that read “In 2019, discern who to let into your life and your space so that at the end of the year you won’t have a bunch of people to cut off. Let this be the last year of you cutting people off because you didn’t discern whether or not they should have had access to you to begin with” (- Adara Sherron; @adarraaa). Listen, GUILTY! I’m guilty of finding myself repeatedly having to ‘cut’ people out of my life because I didn’t use my God given, and very thorough might I add, discernment. I often open my life to people too quickly before I allow my discernment to work for me. I allow myself to be put into situations that I honestly want no parts of, or helping people that don’t deserve it and when I finally let my heart speak it’s too late. I’m done with that! I will allow my discernment to speak before I do and accept the reality that not everyone deserves a permanent spot in my life. Some people deserve as much as a hello and good day, others deserve a lifetime. I’ve collected all of the “lifetime” people and I’m moving forward with them.
2. Trust the vibes you get, energy doesn’t lie!
   • Now, this certainly ties into #1 but it’s something I knew about myself as a little girl. Like so many others, I have the ability to feel the energy of others. My issue is, plain and simple, I ignore the energy I should steer clear of. I have this habit of thinking my positive energy will rub off on them and I forget the fact that negative energy seems to travel faster thus leaving my space and harmony altered for all the wrong reasons. I’m off this as well. I’m no longer apologizing for trusting the vibes and acting accordingly. I spend countless hours accessing how it will affect others, all the while I’m letting my own energy and strength for myself waiver. It’s true what they say, you can love people from afar. No love lost, no hate, stay away from me though!
3. Never be afraid to speak the desires of your heart!
   • So many of us have been raised to move in silence in fear of those praying on our downfall and against us. What 2018 taught me is that I have more than enough people genuinely praying for me, and it’s as simple as trusting the vibes and never being afraid to open up to those specific people. When you are surrounded by those who truly want to see you succeed the first question out of their mouth is “How can I help you?”, not internal thoughts on how can they hurt you. When you are surrounded by a strong team they pull together to increase efforts and your chances of winning, as you do for them! Nothing is better than a collection of people all rooting for one another to win, genuinely. When I tell you 2018 was an incredible year for me, however I realize a lot of my wins were silent. So many things that I was working on were kept in my heart for fear of seeming boastful or too proud. The nerve of me to feel as though speaking the desires of my heart, out loud, would make me come off as too proud! What’s for me is just that, for me. I need not to ever be afraid to speak it into existence for myself no matter how big of a dream it may seem to others. So simply put, I’m off this one too!

2019 I will continue to work on improving myself, my team, and our life. With my 3 top lessons of 2018 I can guarantee this year will be filled with the peace and prosperity that I desire! I want to wish everyone that reads this a Happy New Year! May this next year bring you all of the joy and peace that you deserve as well!

-Xo